Archive for March, 2007

Suffering is resisting

Saturday, March 10th, 2007

Suffering is resisting. It’s a strong statement. Strong in the sense that it leaves us with at least half the responsibility for our suffering. One part of the equation is the world that we resist. The other part is obviously us resisting it.

If we accept this, does it help us in some respect?

If we add the truism that we can only live in the moment and neither in the past nor future, it starts to make sense. When we think about the past, we pull it into the moment, because that’s the only spot where we can somehow experience it. And if we think about the future, we likewise have to pull it into the present to ‘experience’ it (I’ve put this in quotes, because we can only imagine the future, and we then experience our imagination).

The truth is that in every moment we live, there is only space for one moment. How we fill this moment, is up to us. Do we fill it with acceptance or resistance? Do we fill it with positive expectations, or do we focus on being hurt and misunderstood?

What focus will make us a bit more powerful in the Now, what other focus will instantly drain our energies? There certainly is a decision to make.

Frank

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Do You Deserve?

Thursday, March 8th, 2007

There is something odd about the feeling that we deserve something, and frankly I can’t quite put my finger on what is going on.

Does this feeling make sense anyway? Does it serve us, or does it mostly stand in our way?

Many people for example believe that they don’t deserve to have a lot of money. So they do everything to get rid of what they have, and not earn more. Who tells them how much they deserve? Why should we think that we don’t deserve something anyway?

I suspect that this idea of deserving is just another negative way to motivate ourselves to do something. Similar to scolding ourselves. and this may even work, but the price is high.

The idea of deserving is not gentle. It’s not supportive. It’s just there to tell us that we are less worthy than we could be.

Deserving - some idea to find a way around.

Frank

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The Higher Self

Tuesday, March 6th, 2007

The Higher Self.

This is just a concept, a helpful construction that makes our thinking more powerful. And it can also reveal some underlying believes about how the universe works. In my case there is a belief, and I’m not sure how metaphysical it really is: I believe that everyone of us has some kind of purpose, and that this purpose is kind of given to us. I don’t know if it is written into some book before we enter this earth plane, but is surely shows itself.

Here’s how we find out what our purpose is: What enthuses us? What skills do we have naturally? In which fields did we excel without effort? What would we do if we didn’t have money? When do we get into a flow? What has happened to us in our past that left its marks in our lifes, be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’?

One thing I know for sure. when we act in the direction of our Higher Self, we feel ok. We feel that we are making good use of our time and our life. And we are even enjoying the process at the same time.

Frank

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Freedomcoach

Sunday, March 4th, 2007

Some of you readers already know that I have a new domain name: http://freedomcoa.ch. I figured that my whole life was about gaining freedom, breaking free from patterns and limitations, becoming more of what I am, and becoming my true me.

So, I thought, why not making that my niche. If you want to overcome something that keeps you from experiencing more freedom in your life, consider being coached by the author. What kind of freedom can you think about?

Here’s what I have in mind:

  • freedom from limiting behaviours
  • freedom from circumstances you dislike
  • freedom to give yourself the time to do your own projects
  • freedom to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want
  • financial freedom, not having to show up ‘at work’ every day

Does anything resonate with you?

Frank

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My Mind is my Castle

Thursday, March 1st, 2007

I never stop being amazed about some people, especially men, who are reluctant to share their inner workings. They don’t speak about what they think and feel. Somehow they must think that it could reveal something about them, and let us judge them easier, or manipulate them easier. By not telling anything, they might feel saver and more in control.

I think that the opposite is true. The more you share, the more you learn about yourself, and others. Not many things we experience in ourselves are really unique. There are actually quite ubiquitous patterns, many of which are going on in all of us. When we shut down the connection to our inner world, we’ll never see the patterns, we’ll never understand outselves and others as well as we could be. In understanding lies the real power.

Frank

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